I graduated college about 8 months ago. And let me tell you, that has brought up some interesting discoveries about myself and this world we're living in.
So let's begin...
Everyone prepares you for the transition from high school to college so well. You have college orientation, high school teachers talk of nothing but your future university, all of school you’re basically working to getting into a good undergrad. There is almost NO WAY for you to not feel overwhelmed with information about this “giant transition” in your life.
HOWEVER. I have quickly realized that the transition from college to real life adulthood is way more complicated. And here’s the kicker: there are no rules.
I spent 17 years of my life in school. That is roughly 81% of my life. 81% of life spent with a huge amount of structure and set goals. As someone who thrives off of structure and set goals, my years of schooling ended, and I was extremely confused on what I was supposed to do with all this unstructured time and a whole life left to achieve my goals.
As I mentioned before, I am an actor. My degree is in Musical Theatre. So logically, everyone, myself included, continuously is asking when I’m moving to New York. I put a lot of pressure on myself to do this, because otherwise I failed right? You get a theatre degree, you go to New York, become an actor. There. That’s the recipe for success, and if you don’t follow it, you fail. Right..?
Well. Not necessarily.
Success is what you make it. And I’ve learned through the past 8 months that I can define success for myself. I’ve worked and booked shows back at home in Indianapolis. I have friends within this community. I just started working in a box office. I am surrounded by art and theatre, right here in a smaller market. And I'm happy. And I didn't have to go across the country and follow the stereotypical path to find it.
I recently came to the realization that I am a relationship-based person. Some people are career motivated, some are motivated by a place where they want to live, I am motivated by the people I want to be around. None of these are wrong and none of them constitute failure. I couldn't be happier for my friends and classmates who are killing it across the country. And I couldn't be happier for myself who has found joy and fulfillment right here at home.
My success right now is that I love the people I’m around, and I wake up happy. I may move to New York eventually, heck I may disappear to Europe for 5 months, who knows? My future is open, and I'm excited for what is in store. And as of right now… I’m happy just to be.
Thanks for listening,