The other day during class, my co-teacher and I were giving one of our students a pep talk. She’s one of those high school girls that has trouble seeing the amazing and wonderful things about herself that we see. She tends to only point out the negatives. “We all have a list of things we don’t like about ourselves,” my co-teacher stated, “but the key is to find the things we love about ourselves to.” So we gave her an assignment to come back to the next class with a list of 10 things she loves about herself.
And let me tell you, this task seemed daunting for her. And I’m assuming it may also seem daunting to many of you.
For some reason, people have a hard time complimenting themselves. (Women, this one might hit a little harder for you.) It’s easy to look at ourselves and only see flaws and not give credit where credit is due.
Whenever I’m talking with a friend who’s being hard on themselves, I always come back to that quote. “If you wouldn’t let an asshole into your house, why would you let them in to your mind?”
Self talk affects us. It just does. And if you’re walking around telling yourself you’re not worthy of great things, then it is going to be pretty damn hard to achieve great things. Feeling unworthy, unseen, doubtful, messy, ugly, hopeless. These are all really hard emotions. And overcoming them truly becomes a battle.
But it’s absolutely a battle you can win.
And it starts with self talk. It starts with positivity. It starts with putting one foot in front of the other and doing the brave thing.
In this case that brave thing is complimenting yourself. That brave thing is pointing out your beauty rather than commenting on your flaws. The brave thing is to make your list of 10 of your most favorite personality traits.
Confidence isn’t conceit. I challenge you all to shout your favorite qualities from the rooftops!
Because when my co-director looked at me for backup with the statement “we all have a list of things we don’t like about ourselves, right Amanda?” I honestly had to look at her and say “no.”
Of course, I have flaws. I have a multitude of flaws. But those flaws make me who I am, and I happen to really like that person.
Some of you will read that and think I’m completely stuck up and narcissistic. But I refuse to tell myself I’m anything but brilliant and important and special. And you shouldn’t tell yourself anything less either.
I’m proud of myself. I’m proud of the work that I’ve put in to get to this point. And I’m proud of having the confidence to share this with you. Now are you willing to share with me? I challenge you to post, email, or even just write for yourself the top 10 things you love about yourself.
Let’s fill the world, and specifically our minds, with a little more love and a lot more confidence. So that when the time comes, you can answer that you don’t have a list of things you don’t like about yourself, only a list of things you love.