Life is full of simple joys. I talk about them a lot on this blog. Little things like treating yourself to some ice cream or enjoying a nice morning stroll. It can be whatever makes you happy, and I’m a big proponent of practicing moments of little joy every day.
Yesterday’s moment of little joy for me was buying myself a bouquet of flowers.
Valentine’s Day was a few weeks ago. Everyone loves the deals a few weeks afterwards because of all the low priced candy you get to enjoy. Well, when I was grocery shopping yesterday, I saw some discounted flowers. Were they the best quality? Maybe not. Did they bring a smile to my face? Yes. So I bought them.
I’ve had a weird week full of ups and downs. It’s been a bit stressful. So, gosh darn it, I deserve some flowers.
You know that weird phenomenon where after years of social identification, certain items take on meaning even when you don’t necessarily realize it? Like how nowadays, flowers tend to signify romance. They’re a living thing that we pick out of the ground and use to tell our significant other that we love them and appreciate them and support them.
How cool that a simple arrangement of plants can do all that.
Can you imagine if we were as comfortable gifting that beauty to ourselves as we are giving it away to someone else? It’s easy to justify giving away flowers, because you know it will make someone else happy. We shower other people with gifts and encouragement and gestures to show them just how special they are. But here’s a secret, you deserve to realize that you’re special too. I say, we need to give ourselves more of this energy. The “I’m giving you a beautiful thing as a sign that you are loved” energy.
Because you don’t need to spend your life waiting for someone else to make it beautiful.
I’ve heard a lot of stories of people giving away their own happiness by relying on someone else to supply it. Heck, I’ve definitely been a culprit of this. I’ve spent so much of my life as a people pleaser and a perfectionist. I’ve needed everyone else to give me validation and praise to make me happy. I needed them to bring the flowers to me.
Slowly but surely, I’m working to release myself from the trap of requiring constant validation. I’m learning to give it to myself. To look at myself and say, that was a good choice you made or I’m proud of you for what you accomplished today. And most of all, to say little things like, “you deserve some flowers, so just go ahead and buy them.”
I don’t need a man to love me and bring me flowers as a token of his affection. I just need myself to love me and bring me a little reminder to smile. I can make my world a little brighter and more beautiful all on my own, and you can too.
I’m not sure what your flowers of life are, but I encourage you to go out and get them. Do something that makes you happy today. Not because it’s practical and not because it’s really for someone else. I challenge you to do something little as a gesture of love to yourself. Because why wait one more minute to make your life as beautiful as I know it is?